It's no surprise that most of us infertiles have issues with certain holidays, and some are much harder than others. For me, Mother's Day is an off-the-charts stinker of a day.
In our multi-media centered world, I can't turn on the TV without seeing a commercial for flowers, jewelry or cards for Mom; email promotions are touting sales for gifts for moms; and even the Twittersphere is getting into the act. Facebook is safe...for now, but that will change this weekend. We might want to go dark on Facebook on Sunday to save ourselves from seeing all of the happy messages for moms.
And, I know that if I go to the grocery or pharmacy, I am sure to be met with "Happy Mother's Day" from well-intentioned clerks. It's happened before and they feel like barbs instead of good wishes.
It's a double-edged sword; on one hand, I want to celebrate the mothers in my life: my mom, sister, grandmother, aunts, and friends. But, on the other, it's just another very blantant reminder of the fact that I won't be getting a crayon-drawn card or burnt pancakes (that is, unless my dogs and cats surprise me this year).
I already have a plan to combat my emotions of that day, which is sure to be tough. I'm going horseback riding.
Good plan! I'm already planning on going black on Facebook for the entire weekend! And someone else reminded me that going to a restaurant, especially on Sunday, especially for Brunch, is a very bad idea.
ReplyDeleteAmen! I'm trying to prepare myself and look at the day with positivity, but it's rather hard. I'd rather hide away all day!!
ReplyDeleteI expect I'll be hanging out at home, maybe gardening or knitting. I did find in the past though - going out to a restaurant for dinner is not so bad on Mother's Day. Most people do brunch or an early seating - so heading out aroun 7 pm, you can get a nice meal with no crowd.
ReplyDeleteI am (thankfully) going to be in the car all day coming home from a wedding, avoiding the public - though not intentionally. :)
ReplyDeleteMother's Day is especially hard for me. My husband and I have been trying to start a family for over five years. After the first three years, I got pregnant with twins (a boy and a girl) through IVF. I carried them for 20 weeks, but then I went into premature labor and lost both babies. I never did get pregnant again after that.
ReplyDeleteSo on Mother's Day, I think of my babies in Heaven.
Hiding out in a dark movie theatre, I think. ; )
ReplyDeletethis was really hard for me...and i didn't expect it at all until it was just all over FB and twitter....i managed to choke back tears several times that day....if i had not m/c our first pregnancy, we would have a month-old baby....and if we had not TFMR our second pregnancy (Down Syndrome) i would still be pregnant :(
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